Knowing or suspecting that your child is being bullied can be very upsetting, but there's lots you can do to help tackle the problem.
Bullying is one of the biggest concerns for parents, according to Family Lives, a support organisation for parents.
If you find out or suspect your child is being bullied, there are things you can do to resolve the problem.
And you don't have to find all the answers on your own. There are a number of organisations that can give you help and advice.
How do you know if your child is being bullied?
Sometimes children don't talk to their parents or carers about bullying because they don't want to upset them, or they think it will make the problem worse.
But if you suspect your child is being bullied, there are signs to look out for, according to the NSPCC. These include:
- coming home with damaged or missing clothes, without money they should have, or with scratches and bruises
- having trouble with homework for no apparent reason
- using a different route between home and school
- feeling irritable, easily upset or particularly emotional
Read more about spotting the signs of bullying on the NSPCC website.
Signs of cyberbullying include:
- being withdrawn or upset after texting or being online
- being unwilling to talk about what they're doing online or on their phone
- spending much more or much less time texting or online
- many new phone numbers, texts or email addresses show up on their phone, laptop or tablet
Find out more about the signs of cyberbullying (PDF, 185kb).
How to help your child if they are being bullied
If a child tells you they're being bullied, the first thing to do is listen. The NSPCC advises parents and carers to let children tell their story in their own words, and not to dismiss their experience as "just a part of growing up".
The NSPCC advises that you suggest your child keeps a diary of bullying incidents. It will help to have concrete facts to show the school, sports coach or club leader. The next step is to talk to the school or adult in charge of your child's club.
Talking to the school about bullying
To stop the bullying, it's essential for you or your child, or both of you, to talk to the school.
Think about who would be the best person to approach first. Discuss this with your child as there may be a particular teacher your child feels more at ease with.
Schools should do everything they can to prevent all kinds of bullying. The law says every school must have an anti-bullying policy, and you have the right to ask how your child's school deals with bullying.
Some schools run schemes such as peer mentoring, where certain children are trained to listen and help with problems.
Teachers can discipline children for bullying that happens off school premises. That could be on the bus, in the street or at the shops.
Read more information from Bullying UK on contacting your child's school about bullying.
Help from health services
Children can feel the impact of bullying even once it's ended. If they continue to feel anxious or low and it's stopping them getting on with day-to-day life, it may be time to ask for further help. You can speak to your GP or the school nurse about the problem.